It's been a long few days since I posted, but it gave me something to write about (surprised? me too).
Jess arrived on Friday. I went to pick her up 40 miles away. Her mother asked me how it was going to be with Jim gone. I simply said "quieter". Apparently, Jess has repeatedly told her mom that she wants to live with us. I don't think it sits well with her. I told her I hope Jess can come at least once a weekend while Jim is gone because they have grown to love each other. Her mom said, "I don't know, we'll see. Maybe once in a while". Ugh. See, the thing is I've really grown to love this child like she's my own. Is that wrong? She wrote a note that said, "I love you dad, I love you larel". I cried it was so sweet to see this beautiful little girl come alive. She used to want to play on the computer the entire time she was at our house. She hasn't even asked to play on it the last three or four times she's been here.
Anyway, we took the girls to the imax to see the Polar Express in 3-D. Jim and I thought they'd be SOOOO excited. We got owned. They were pissed because they wanted to see the whales and dolphins movie that was playing. So I say to Jim, "why can't they just say thanks? I mean seriously?". They ended up loving it in the end and said it got them in the mode for Christmas. They actually said mode and not mood. The thing is, it was so f*cking hot in there Jim and I both were falling asleep the entire time. It had to be 90 degrees in there. We left sweating to walk the girls down to the pier at the waterfront where Jim and I first met. It was fun.
Next day we had a fire to roast hot dogs and marshmallows on them with Lula and her family. Yes, Lula is still alive and well and crazy as ever. It's always nice having a best friend next door who understands that I'm not around as much because I'm spending time with Jim. She gets it and I appreciate that. Anyway, my sis Deeds has this friend Twan. He's hung out with us a few times and he's really funny. The girls thinks he's funny too. So Deeds, Danny (her boyfriend), and Twan pull up while we're sitting around the fire. Mad, being the honest to the point of annoyance points at Twan and says "hey, the black guy is here". Yup, she went there. I laughed and said "what's up big black man"? He just laughed, he's cool like that.
Thing is, I talk to my kids all the time about equality. Maybe too much I guess. Mad asked me what gay was because some kids were calling a little boy gay at school. She's in second grade people. I told her it was when a boy loves another boy or a girl loves another girl. She said like you love Jim? I said yes, that's how they're born and there is nothing different between the way they love and Jim and I love each other. I told them not to treat people different no matter what other people around you say. Thing is, she gets it. My best gay Jason comes around and she asked him one day if he was my gay friend. He looked like he was going to have a coronary. He just said yes. She looked at him and said "cool" and gave him a hug. You know how she is about being cool, so to her, being gay is "cool". I just think it's fabulous.
God, this is getting long. It's like after having writers block I now have verbal or typing diarrhea.
Today Jim is taking Jess back only to get her back tomorrow. So, he'll be staying with his parents and I'll get down there tomorrow night or Thursday. Let's face it, probably Thursday morning. I have alot on DVR that I need to catch up on. This is my first Thanksgiving away from my parents. I told my mom she better save me some sweet potato biscuits or I was going to disown her.
That's all for now. Happy Thanksgiving to everyone. I'm truly thankful that I've met all five of you who read my blog. I'm even more thankful for the ones who leave comments. Yes, I do love you more if you comment. Because that's how I roll ;p
I hope everyone eats there way into a turkey induced coma (unless you're a vegetarian than a tofurkey induced coma). I know I will be :)
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